Jess Alan Carr

November 13, 1960 ~ June 22, 2021 (age 60)


Services to honor and celebrate the life of Jess Alan Carr will be 11:00 a.m. Monday, June 28, 2021 at St. Clement of Rome Catholic Church, Bixby. Family will receive friends for visitation from 6:00 – 8:00 p.m. Sunday, June 27, 2021 in the RiverCrest Chapel & Event Center, Bixby. Jess passed from this life of Tuesday, June 22, 2021. He was 60.

Born November 13, 1960, in Hahn, Germany, while his father was serving in the U.S. Air Force, Jess Alan Carr was the third of five children welcomed by Adrian and Virginia (Sumpter) Carr. The Carr family would spend several years in Germany before moving back to the United States. Once in the U.S., they would live in Georgia and South Carolina before making Tulsa their home.

In Tulsa, Jess would attend Union schools. Upon his high school graduation, he began working at Sears. While employed there, he met a co-worker named Donna Childs. The two had a mutual friend and Jess used that friend as a sounding board as he asked, “Do you think she’d go out with me? With a little bit of encouragement, Jess worked up enough nerve to ask Donna out and she said, “Yes”. The two began dating and later married. Their wedding ceremony took place on May 15, 1982, in Tulsa. Donna shared the reason they picked the 15th was so they could always have enough money to celebrate their anniversary. Although the venue changed a time or two, they were always sure to celebrate that special date!

Furthering his education, Jess took heat and air classes through vo-tech, attained his associate degree through Tulsa Community College (TCC) and even took additional classes through the University of Phoenix. He was very proud when he graduated from TCC, after returning to school later in life, and made it into the Who's Who among students in American Junior Colleges 2002. His education, coupled with plenty of on-the-job training helped Jess to become a successful mechanical engineer. Through the years, he found his niche working for various healthcare facilities, in Tulsa, including St John Medical Center, Saint Francis Hospital, and most recently was named the Director of Facilities for Parkside Hospital, Tulsa.

Always willing to help and known as a man who could fix anything, Jess was well-suited for his career. He also used his willingness and talents to help numerous friends and family members with various projects. In addition to taking things apart and putting them back together again, Jess was known for his extensive gardening where he was sure to share his crop. He was also famous for making his special jalapeño jelly - a process that was sure to drive anyone and everyone out of the house for at least a week and a process that turned all of Donna’s kitchen towels pepper green!

Described as thoughtful, caring, creative, kind, and loving, Jess was a man who loved unconditionally and always looked out for others. He loved his family and friends and would often pick on them and then say, “I’m just messing with you”. This was his way of letting others know he genuinely cared for them.

It is quite possible that Jess’ grandson, Cayleb, said it just right when he said, “I just needed more time. Papa didn’t get to teach me everything I need to know.” Although Jess won’t be here in physical form, he will live on in the hearts and minds of those family and friends who are surviving. They include: his wife, Donna; son, Casey; grandson, Cayleb; mother, Virgina; siblings: sister, Deborah Kerr; brother, Benjamin Carr and sister, Merilisa Conway. He is also survived by numerous nieces, nephews, great-nieces, great-nephews, and other relatives and friends.

He was preceded in death by his father and a brother, Edward Carr.

For those who wish to honor Jess with a memorial donation, the family suggests those donations be directed to: The Alzheimer's Association.

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June 27, 2021

6:00 PM to 8:00 PM
RiverCrest Chapel and Event Center
13329 S. Memorial Dr.
Bixby, OK 74008

Funeral Mass
June 28, 2021

11:00 AM
St. Clement of Rome Catholic Church
15501 S. Memorial Dr.
Bixby, OK 74008

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