Mass of Christian Burial honoring the life of Brenda Irene Shrier will be held 12 PM Friday, December 27, 2019 at St. Anne’s Catholic Church, 301 S. 9th Street in Broken Arrow. Father Sean O’Brien will be presiding. Brenda passed away Thursday, December 19, 2019 in Tulsa at the age of 76.
Born September 24, 1943 in Peterborough, England, the daughter of Gladys Mary (Denton) Dean. Brenda grew up during hard economic times in the wake of World War II. She lived on a small farm outside of Peterborough with her mother, stepfather (Arthur William Deane), and her three younger siblings, brother Fred Deane, brother Robin Deane, and sister Betty Deane (deceased). Brenda completed school in Peterborough. Her brother Robin shared a story of Brenda sticking up for a younger boy being bullied on the bus home from school. The bully was much larger than Brenda, but he said that did not stop her from sorting the bully out. When they got off the bus the bully told his father that Fred and Robin had done that to him. Brenda stood right up and told him exactly what “she” had done. They were surprised when the father gave her 2 shillings and 6 pence (old money) for helping to set him straight. Brenda was never one to back down from what she thought was right. There were more than few dishes sent back to the kitchen because they weren’t cooked to her liking…
Following high school, Brenda was introduced to George F. Shrier, Jr. through mutual friends. George was stationed in England while serving in the U.S. Air Force. The couple married, spent 34 years together, and successfully raised 4 boys. After many different duty stations and deployments, George retired from the Air Force and they settled in Oklahoma to continue raising their boys.
Brenda was extremely proud of her British heritage and loved to follow the Royal Family. Anytime the Royals had an event, such as a wedding, Brenda loved to throw a party and decorate her home with British regalia to celebrate the occasion. She loved her time spent with the T.B.P.A. (Transatlantic Brides and Parents Association) in Tulsa, where she made many lifelong friends that she was able to reminisce with about their experiences back in England. Brenda was the most loving, caring, and protective mother to her children. She was an amazing cook, both at home, and while she worked in the cafeteria at St. Peter and Paul Catholic School. Brenda was known for her home style cooking of fried chicken, roasts, and her specialty, beef stroganoff, the family favorite Super Bowl Sunday meal. Friends and family members would always call her to inquire about her recipes and could always be leaned on if a little kitchen-craft advice was needed. A true Brit at heart, Brenda would drink hot tea (never cold!) along with her British cookies for snacks. She loved collecting British antiques and cookbooks of all varieties.
Brenda was devout in her Catholic faith and a longtime parishioner of St. Francis Xavier in Tulsa. She began attending St. Anne’s in Broken Arrow after a friend convinced her to come back after a long absence. This rekindled relationship with the Lord was very comforting to her as her health began to decline. She received communion on Sundays at home when her health prevented her from attending Mass thanks to Father Sean Deacon Tom. Brenda Shrier lived a fine life and will not soon be forgotten by her many friends and family who loved her.
Surviving family members include her children: Timothy Shrier and his wife, Donna, Patrick Shrier and his wife Petra, Robert Shrier and his wife, Jamie, and Christopher Shrier and his wife Romy; her grandchildren: Michael Shrier, Jennifer Moore, and Joseph Shrier; Shelby Ditmore, Adam, Alisa and Andrew Shrier; Alex, Samantha, and Dominik Shrier, and Christopher Jr., Matthew, and Lily Shrier; as well as the father of her children, George F. Shrier, Jr.
Brenda also leaves a legacy of 10 great-grandchildren.
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